How to Beat Social Anxiety in 4 Steps
Get over that fear of constantly being judged by other people.
My client Anna doesn't like to think back to her time in high school. Speaking in front of the whole class, group assignments, being called upon - these are the situations where Anna had to face her biggest fear: being negatively evaluated by other people. The mere thought of being the center of attention, with all her classmates' eyes on her, still makes her heart race. She describes that all she wants in these moments is ...
9 Life Lessons I Wish I Knew 10 Years Ago
The most important one is about how to design your life.
We may think we know it all at 20, and then we grow up and realize we definitely didn’t. Here’s what I wish I had known or realized earlier in life. And some of these lessons are ones I still have to remind myself of to this day. ...
Getting My Priorities Right Made Me a Better Person
Between yourself, work, and friends and family — where does your time and energy go?
“In case of an emergency, put the oxygen mask on yourself first before helping others.”
This sentence is one any frequent flyer knows by heart, but it only recently dawned on me how much truth it holds. Only if I am well and whole, I can serve and support my fellow human beings. But it is easy and humane to lose focus of ourselves, facing our everyday challenges. Do you know ...
Reacher or Settler? Here’s How to Keep the Balance with Your Significant Other
Because seeing eye-to-eye can make or break a relationship.
Have you heard of the “reacher vs. settler” theory in relationships? If you’ve watched How I Met Your Mother, you are probably familiar with it. It states that in every classic romantic relationship, one party is the reacher, the other the settler. The reacher dates someone who is somewhat out of their league. The settler, well, settles, despite being in theory able to “do better”. Cruel concept, right? ...
The Dark Side of Empathy
And how to turn it back into a strength.
I had always assumed everybody was more or less able to build a connection to what other people were feeling. The first incident in my life that made me wonder if my levels of empathy were appropriate was in the 12th grade.
My boyfriend at the time helped my dad carry a heavy cupboard down the stairs in my parents’ house. It got too heavy, he let it slip, and the massive thing crushed his fingers against the wall. His hand went red and blue immediately. He said he was okay, not wanting to seem soft in front of my dad, but I...
Why You Should Buy Flowers When You DON’T Feel Like It.
Your brain uses your behavior for backward conclusions on your feelings.
I can still hear my mom‘s voice in the back of my head, „stop slouching Julia!“. Have you ever noticed that adopting an upright posture, pushing your shoulders back, and keeping the chin up makes you feel more confident? It‘s a classic tip in any class on giving presentations or acing job interviews for a reason. It works magic because it not only changes the way you come across, but also the way...